I found this very interesting read. Enjoy.

Dan on Roles, Leadership, and Supporting Your Partner
June 05, 2012 by Rachel Held Evans
This afternoon I’m thrilled to introduce you to my amazing husband Dan. Dan is a loyal friend, a wise and supportive partner, an entrepreneur, a videographer, and a professional out-of-the-box thinker. He’s also one of the most creative, funny, and intelligent people I’ve ever met (though I suppose I’m a bit biased). You can thank Dan for the fact that this Web site exists and runs so smoothly, as he’s the one who works behind-the-scenes to keep all my technology afloat. Some things I respect most about Dan include his uncompromising integrity, his seemingly natural inclination to “rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep,” and his ability to identify obscure actors in movies without checking IMDB.

Earlier today, we examined the concept of submission in the context of Peter and Paul’s Christian remix of the Greco-Roman household codes. This afternoon, Dan shares a little about what a pattern of mutual submission looks like in our marriage. Last year, during the infamous “year of biblical womanhood,” Dan kept a journal. The following post is adapted from an excerpt he wrote during the last month of the project. (You’ll be able to read more from his journal when the book comes out!)

Enjoy!

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Recently, my mom made note of how proud she was that I’m able to support Rachel in her successful career, something she said that “many men couldn’t do.”

When viewed in the context of the yearlong “Biblical Womanhood” project, it highlighted a strange absurdity. During the experiment, I acted as the hierarchical leader of our relationship, but at the same time, I continued to play a supporting role in Rachel’s career. At first, I didn’t know how to respond to my Mom’s compliment other than, “Thanks Mom.” But after processing it a bit, trying to resolve my cognitive dissonance, it hit me:

Our roles aren’t static. Our roles change depending on context.

At its core, (yearlong projects aside), my relationship with Rachel isn’t a hierarchy; it’s a partnership. What kind of person doesn’t want success for their partner? A weak, insecure, person. What kind of man doesn’t want success for his wife? A weak, insecure man.

I’m not supporting Rachel like a passive piling supports a dock. I’m supporting her like the Saturn V supported Apollo 11. I want her to succeed in her pursuits, and will do everything in my power to make it happen. And she wants the same for me.

When I’m working on a film project, who’s taking the supporting role and feeding everyone? Rachel. When I took a year to buy, renovate and sell an investment property, who supported me throughout? Rachel. When Rachel’s working to finish a writing project by deadline, who’s supporting her by keeping the house clean and the laundry done? Me. Our life decisions are made in tandem. We’re the ones leading our lives. We aren’t battling over who’s leading who.

To be “a leader” is meaningless without context. A leader of what?

Too many of us have succumbed to the idea that “leaders” are a specific type of people or that “leadership” is a character quality to be obtained like political capital – the more the better. But I view leadership differently. Leadership isn’t a goal. Leadership is a role that comes and goes.Wisdom and strength are what we should pursue. Not leadership.

In the context of roles, wisdom is discerning when to lead, and strength comes from consistently practicing wisdom. Leadership is a role that changes hands depending on context. In that light, it’s important to learn how to lead, not because you want to be “a leader”, but because when wisdom and strength have placed you in a position of leadership, you don’t want to screw it up.

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What do you think? What does “leadership” look like in your marriage and relationships? What about “support”? Are they static positions you hold or versatile roles that you play?

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This is the fourth
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Ignorance of the Ruling Elite. 

Since, the word “stealing”, evolved into the word “corruption”, Nigerians are having some difficulties understanding the denials and defense of those who may be culpable of wrongdoings in the past. A ‘thief’ has a name in all our local/native tongues. 

What should/do we call a corrupt person in our native tongue? Smart? 

Until we find an ugly and repulsive name for a corrupt person, the term, “corruption” will never strike us as bad and hard as it should.
We will continue to wave it off or forgive it as we’ve often done in the past and the social/moral cancer will continue to metastasize. 

Stage 1: denial; 

stage 2: defend; 

stage 3: ignorance; 

stage 4: extended comatose ; 

stage 5: death. 

Stages 1 and 3 can conveniently change positions depending on whether the principal player(s) is enlightened, educated, privileged or not. 
For the records, according to Dictionary.com, corruption means :

– the act of corrupting or state of being corrupt.

– moral perversion; depravity.

– perversion of integrity.

– corrupt or dishonest proceedings.

– bribery.

– debasement or alteration, as of language or a text.

– a debased form of a word.

– putrefactive decay; rottenness.

– any corrupting influence or agency.

All these have happened and we all watched. 

Corruption is therefore a syndrome and any attempt to isolate or compartmentalize it, will be an over-simplification of a very complex issue. 

We are at that stage now and it is sad. 

Do we have a window of opportunity? Maybe. 

Africa Arise.                                                      It has long passed the time for Africa to rise. May this generation not be the timid, beggary generation we were.  May this generation be rich in ideas, contentment, useful energy, generosity that enriches and enables the other person, etc. May this generation be so enriched with things money cannot buy that they are not contemptuous of each other or greedy with pride and arrogance. They will never be ignorant and not want to grow and increase their knowledge of the world around them. They must share and contribute to each other’s perspective for the good and evil in the world is too big for one person to own and apportion or bear alone. Each must contribute more to the commonwealth (through ideas, energy, resources, et cetera) than he/she takes away. Let them step on the shoulders of the magnanimous souls that are still alive so they can look farther into and beyond the horizon beckoning at them to come and explore the vista ahead. Africa has the youth, the arena is vast, the market is huge. Above all, the willingness is palpable, the spiritedness is infectious and time beacons. It is liberating to feel this moment. Awake Africa!

This is so disconcerting. Humanity is losing its ability to make calls about what’s right or wrong; sacred or profane; good and evil; etcetera. We are living in a world that is becoming more secularized because we are becoming more independent/individualized or herded in one direction or the other by those we’ve resigned our destiny into their authority to do what they deemed right for us without caring where they lead us. We are also choosing to remain at the crossroads or sit on the fence waiting to jump onto any ride headed in any direction – hell or heaven. We are afraid to make conscious efforts for heaven that involves decision-making/small judgements towards the final judgment by God Himself for fear of being accused of being judgmental by a world getting too secularized yet, wants God’s kingdom on earth. A world that is saying there is no sin but crime; A world without standards based on our faith but, on mundane things like relativism. A world that wants to be politically correct instead of being Christ-correct yet, profess Christianity so profusely but are afraid to see or say wrong is being perpetrated. There are also unfortunately Christians who are so positive-minded and clean of heart that they do not recognize the evils happening around them. They do not want to judge but, are hopeful that things will change for good after becoming so bad first. We are all flawed. Yes, but we must strive at doing our charity which includes action as well and remain hopeful to give impetus to our faith. God is in each and every one of us to help us distinguish good from bad, judge right from wrong and do something about it. Sometimes, we call it wrongly but, we repent and ask for forgiveness. But, first speak up, create an awareness, report to authority, admonish the wrong doer in love , by teaching, coaching and mentoring and helping by means available before things reach crises points, etcetera. Denial that the power of God in us is not to be used for the good of others is self-defeating because it works against our own good also. 

This current era. Its really interesting when one displays ignorance of common knowledge without a corresponding zeal to be informed. And I do not mean gossip. That’s for another day. When one of four, five, six, etc., etc. is ignorant (and shows no enthusiasm) of what’s common knowledge, that one person is so non-perceptive to be labeled arrogant. Arrogance is not a high status symbol by the way. “I do/did not know” coupled with a pigheaded reluctance or refusal to learn and know is acting with impunity. When a student doesn’t know the name of the school’s principal or a university undergraduate – the vice chancellor’s name; what is it? A man once asked his wife the address of her family house from where he married her just twelve years ago. When she flipped at that, the remarks she got were: don’t people forget again? Haa, that’s how they are! Funny. A child comes home from school and is asked the teacher’s name. Answer: I don’t know. All these are recent occurrences. Is this commonplace or am I around the wrong crowd?I hear there are parents who do not know what classes their children are in, when they are taking college entrances or class tests and examinations. Some do not even know how their children are doing in the higher institutions they pay so much to send them to and do not even know when they are graduating or whether they have graduated.These are just the few off cases. There are many very good cases/stories out there but, those are not causing pain. They are to be celebrated. Sometimes, we are so happy with our achievements without knowing that the one lose nut that could bring all of our life’s struggles to naught is the isolated and ignored little nuisance (in our own minds) that festered. The ability and quest for knowledge is the cheapest gift anyone can give to oneself. Schooling is different because you go there to confirm what you know already as well as learn the rules and guidelines in specific areas and specialties. Other than this, basic ability to know and understand oneself is free and God-given. Knowledge acquisition refines us and makes us better and easier to live with. I mean common basic and rudimentary knowledge that also teaches good etiquettes.  In addition, the zeal for the acquisition of that knowledge is so essential to take us to a level where our minds are occupied and leaves us with no time to scheme and plot against others. 

Its really interesting when one displays ignorance of common knowledge. When one of four, five, six, etc., etc. is ignorant of what’s common knowledge, that one person is so non-perceptive to be labeled arrogant. Arrogance is not a high status symbol by the way. “I do/did not know” coupled with a pigheaded reluctance or refusal to learn and know is acting with impunity. When a student doesn’t know the name of the school’s principal or a university undergraduate – the vice chancellor’s name; what is it? A man once asked his wife the address of her family house from where he married her just twelve years ago. When she flipped at that, the remarks she got were: don’t people forget again? Haa, that’s how they are! Funny. A child comes home from school and is asked the teacher’s name. Answer: I don’t know. Is this commonplace or am I moving with the wrong crowd?I hear there are parents who do not know what classes their children are in, when they are taking college entrances or class tests and examinations. Some do not even know how their children are doing in the higher institutions they pay so much to send them to and do not even know when they are graduating or whether they have graduated. The ability and quest for knowledge is the cheapest gift anyone can give to oneself. Schooling is different because you go there to confirm what you know already as well as learn the rules and guidelines in specific areas and specialties. Other than this, basic knowledge to know and understand oneself is free and God-given. Knowledge acquisition refines us and makes better and easier to live with. I mean common basic and rudimentary knowledge too that also teaches good etiquettes.  But, the zeal for the acquisition of that knowledge is so essential to take us to a level where our minds are occupied and leaves us with no time to scheme and plot against others. 

The miracle of the Eucharist in Santarem, PortugalDec 16, 2014cathol99 ⋅ Uncategorized ⋅ 88 comments Eucharist-miracle-SantaremAround the year 1225 there was a woman living in Santarem, who was very unhappy with her marriage. She was convinced that her husband did not love her, and was unfaithful. She initially tried numerous things to win back the affection of her husband, but to no avail. As a desperate last attempt, she went to a sorceress. The sorceress promised the wife that her husband would return to his loving ways, if the wife would bring her a Consecrated Host.This of course greatly frightened the woman, because she knew it was sacrilege, but nevertheless she finally gave in. She went to Mass at the Church of St. Steven, and received Communion, but did not consume the Host. Instead, she left the Church immediately, and took the Host out of her mouth, putting It into her veil. She then went to the sorceress.Along the way, the Host began to bleed inside the veil. The wife was not aware of it until passersby brought it to her attention, thinking she herself was bleeding. Panic struck the woman and instead of going to the sorceress’ house, she rushed home. She then put the bloody veil containing the Host into the bottom of a trunk, not knowing what else to do. When her husband came home, she said nothing.Later in the night they were awakened by mysterious bright rays of light coming from the trunk, penetrating the wood and illuminating the entire room. The wife then confessed her sin to her husband and both of them knelt in adoration for the remaining hours until dawn, when the parish priest was summoned.News of the mysterious event spread quickly and attracted countless people who wanted to contemplate the miracle. Because of the furor, an episcopal Church investigation was promptly organized.Santarem_Precious_Blood_Cruet A miracle upon a miracleThe bloody Host was taken in procession to the Church of St. Stephen, where it was encased in wax (to contain the blood and the Host) and secured in the tabernacle. Some time later when the tabernacle was opened, another miracle was discovered. The wax that had encased the Host was found broken into pieces, and the Host was found miraculously enclosed in a crystal pyx, along with the precious Blood. This was later placed in a gold and silver pear-shaped monstrance with a “sunburst” of 33 rays, in which it is still contained today.After the investigation and approval by the Church authorities, the Church of St. Stephen was renamed “The Church of the Holy Miracle.” The little house where the miracle occurred was on Via delle Stuoie in Santarem.