St. Thomas Aquinas. 

St. Thomas Aquinas – a great mind. 

His attempt to reconcile Averroes’s  “theory of the double truth” – faith (theology) and reason (philosophy),  two bodies of knowledge; put him at the forefront of medieval thought. 
He contended that the two bodies of knowledge are from God hence cannot work in opposition but, in collaboration with each other. 
Reason (the outcome of the use of our minds and senses in the observation of the natural phenomena around us) will clarify and demystify faith (which comes through revelation) which in turn would guide reason away from mistakes and errors. 
He further contended that there are five ways to prove the existence of God : observation of movements in the world and described God as the “Immovable Motor”; cause and effect; the impermanent nature of human beings points to the existence of a necessary being who exists of himself; the varying levels of human perfections pointing to the existence of a supreme being; finally, that natural beings could not have intelligence unless given to them by God himself. 
 He identified three types of laws which made his work timeless :
– Natural law governs man’s sense of right and wrong;

– Positive law is the law of the state or government and should always be the manifestation of the natural law; 
– Eternal law, in the case of rational beings, depends on reason and is put into action through free will, which also works toward the accomplishment of man’s spiritual goals. 
– St. Thomas Aquinas, c. 1225 – March 7 1274; priest, philosopher and theologian. (The Universal Teacher and the Christian Apostle canonized 1323 by Pope John XXII).
St. Thomas Aquinas’s treatise on faith and reason; highly recommended. 

We are all unique!

Nobody is indispensable; it is a word spoken in appreciation, endearment or even discontent but, oftentimes leaves the recipient feeling empty, used and exploited. 
On the other hand, we do not have to treat others like they are disposable; that there is always an alternative to them. They are not goods. 
There is no alternative to anyone created by the hands of the Almighty God. We are uniquely different and complete enough to complement each other.
It is ungodly and an impure thought to think that our connections to each other is there to primarily serve someone else’s needs without primarily serving one’s needs and that what’s next, is to be mutual. 
It’s unethical to think anyone should come first in another’s life. 
It destroys the fundamentals of friendship, marriage, family and community where we need, to treat each other with mutual respect. 
Chine’s musings. 

Importance of good role models.

Or girl. . .
The lack of good role models is a global problem these days since we turned homes into mere houses to return to at the end of the day from the wilderness of life.
Role models these days, are external to those who need them most from birth, through infancy, and critically during adolescence.
Even as young adults figuring things out for themselves and as full grown adults who need some boards to sound things and ideas off from.
Good role models are an integral part of development and maturity in life.
The home today is where the greatest threats to human existence hide. It lurks in all corners devouring the fabrics of home life and we are not noticing.
The wilderness has entered our homes because no one was there to check and contain it.

Loving with freedom.

True. There are people who think loving someone means controlling them in obvious ways which is abuse; or by manipulative means as if their loved ones are toys which is insensitivity; or even blackmail which is obviously criminal.
To offer freedom to another, one has to experience freedom and understand it comes with maturity which unfortunately is not picked off the store shelf.
It comes from a deep conviction that loving is sharing, listening and learning from each other. That readiness to do these and more is not weakness but the right thing to do.
Maturity is also nurtured over time.

Random musings.

Do not say bad things about others behind closed doors: walls have ears and can talk.

Do not say you do not care when you slander others and you are outed; you become not only manipulating but, untrustworthy.

Never tell (particularly unsubstantiated) tales (except there are vital learning points, while maintaining anonymity), about subjects/persons you know nothing about; their relations might just be sitting right opposite or besides you. Rather ask questions to confirm the veracity or shut up.

Never come between two or more friends no matter how long you’ve known any of them.

Most importantly, never come between spouses, siblings, neighbors, etc., whoever you are, because those relationships are sacred. They will outlast you or you become the reason it didn’t work.

Finally, recognize boundaries so you don’t meddle.
Some level of self-control and discipline helps.

Just musing.

King Duke of 19th Century Calabar.

My dear, as for King Duke, there’re many more like him. That’s why when people say colonial mentality; I say, inferiority complex. Not blaming anybody yet, just trying to understand the lessons of history.
This complex came about because we were so complacent with our existence and the Europeans took the pre-emptive move of discovering us and we have been playing catch-up since then. The gap ever widening.

When the Europeans came to “discover” us, they came ready to fight us – real battle. But they found out we were not worth a fight, we were cheap and docile. So, they detoxified and we got intoxicated.
That was how they won the battle and we became the spoils of that un-fought war.
As you know, the battle lasts longer than the war, or is it the other way round? Whichever one is first, it is still raging.

History taught about “direct and indirect rules” as the methods employed by the colonialists.
King Duke was one of the instruments of “indirect rule” symbolized by the double crowns . . . and a few bottles of gin in very dark green bottles! (The dark bottles are in the Calabar National Museum and Monuments).
The British understood us better than we knew and know ourselves.
He (King Duke) would have also collected a crown from the Germans, Italians, Dutch, etc. if they offered or “forced” him. Haha! What could he have done? African kings didn’t have external affairs/relations advisers or ministers. Everything revolved around the “King and the man” much more than even his household is worth to him.
The African King spends his time calculating which wife cooks for him what or the one who had water in her mouth greeting him the other day, etc.
Those were their petty preoccupations and they failed us woefully.
By the way, only God knows what was in those dark bottles that the kings got addicted to that extended clandestine slavery to this very day – when African people feel dejected and inferior in the presence of those they consider superior for reasons I am still struggling to understand.
After slavery, came the scramble and partition of Africa, then the struggle for independence, now the psychological warfare that is bent on diminishing us and any achievements of ours and what some may call neo-colonialism. But, who should we blame?
Finally, King Duke is just a symbol of poor quality leadership. I know he has descendants who are beneficiaries of his early contacts with the Europeans, but I guess they may have a different perspective about these views which of course, they are entitled to.
Just history.